Being There for Myself, in Person
Lena had spent most of her life waiting for someone to show up for her. She had imagined it countless times—the friend who would always listen, the partner who would truly understand, the mentor who would guide her through the chaos. But every time she reached out, hoping for rescue, she was met with absence or disappointment.
One evening, she found herself sitting alone in her dimly lit apartment, staring at her reflection in the window. A thought surfaced, quiet but certain: What if the person I’ve been waiting for… is me?
The idea felt foreign, even absurd. She had spent so long searching outside of herself that the notion of being there for herself felt like uncharted territory. But as the thought took root, she realized that no one could be there for her the way she could be—not just in thought, not just in spirit, but in person.
So she decided to show up.
The next morning, she brewed herself a cup of tea, not in a rush, not as an afterthought, but as an act of care. She put on clothes that made her feel strong. She sat down with her journal and wrote, not about what others had done or not done, but about what she needed from herself.
When doubt crept in, whispering that she wasn’t enough, she answered back, I am here.
When sadness tried to pull her under, she held her own hand and stayed.
Day by day, she built a relationship with herself. She spoke kindly, forgave deeply, and learned to trust her own company. She realized that being there for herself wasn’t about isolation—it was about the foundation. The stronger she stood for herself, the more meaningful her connections with others became.
For the first time in her life, she wasn’t waiting for someone to come save her. She had arrived. In person.
Thank-you for reading.
Much love and Light,
Brenda Marie Fluharty
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I love how you gave examples of being there for yourself: “She sat down with her journal and wrote, not about what others had done or not done, but about what she needed from herself.” I worked on this a lot after my divorce and created a stronger foundation. It’s good to have reminders that even in a committed relationship with another person, we need to be there for ourselves, too.
Yes!
Beautifully written, Brenda, and so meaningful! 😍
I agree. When we believe in ourselves and have confidence in ourselves, then we can face whatever comes our way in life. Regards.